You think you desire something serious with this particular guy—but before you do anything else, be sure. Bottom line: Be in a relationship where you feel good when you're without him, but you feel even better with him. 1 piece of advice is to never to bring up the "What are we? "It's like going to a party, turning off the music, turning on the lights, and asking, 'Are we all having a good time here? "A good relationship is built on momentum, and putting a stop to the fun to 'check in' is a surefire way to kill the romance."Let things progress naturally and look at the evidence: Does he try to see you whenever he's free?Step back and ask yourself the following questions, Trespicio suggests: Do I have fun with him? Does he seem genuinely interested in what you have to say? These are likely signs he's in it for real, so enjoy being with him and relax about making things "official." "Men who are wary of commitment want to feel like You don't have to stay in the dark forever, though."You have to decide which you want more: a guy who's committed or this guy, even if he won't ever be," Trespicio says.Spending Saturday morning in the soup kitchen or helping an elderly person carry his groceries may be all it takes to have him calling you girlfriend.If it's been about six months and he hasn't dropped one hint about where he sees this going, casually speak up, says Jennifer Kelman, a licensed social worker and relationship expert at
Wait a few minutes to text back, or if he asks if you're free Tuesday, say that you have other plans but you'd love to meet up on Wednesday.
If you'd rather go to the GYN than watch football, don't pretend to love the Steelers just because the guy you're seeing is a fan.
Instead have your own interests to show him how exciting your life is, with or without him.
As a bonus, the dates he comes up with will give you some insight into how he feels.
"If he suggests seeing the Georgia O'Keefe exhibit because he remembers you like her art, that's a sure sign of romance," Trespicio says.