Harvey Hargrove, Jr., 41, a sales representative in Sacramento, California, knows the pushback that can come from relatives when we marry across race lines.
"He told his family, "I am marrying this woman, so either you're on board or you're going to have to watch from the sidelines,"" says Meador.
It's complicated Toya Lachon, 43, of Washington, D.
C., says she feels frustrated, hurt and even betrayed when she sees Black men with women of other races, but happy when she sees Black women in an interracial relationship."I'm like, Yes, girl, do that," says Lachon. Women are taking control of their happiness."Dating interracially can still come with backlash for both Black men and women.
What can be even more disheartening than seeing your beautiful, professional, well-educated sisterfriend still unattached is seeing a successful Black man settle down with someone of another ethnic group.
The immediate thought for many is, With all the gorgeous, accomplished Black women available, why didn't he choose one of us?